You can build him up or tear him down!

          Ladies do you know how powerful you are? Did you know you can control your man simply by speaking to him?! I can hear some of you now,"Girl, you are crazy! I can't get that man to do a thing I ask!" But in truth you can! You have a tremendous power over your man just through your words!
          Men have a strong desire to feel like a "Man!" They want to be good providers! They want to be loved and valued! Your words can make them feel that way. If they have this feeling they will move Heaven and Earth for you! So don't nag them! Don't talk bad about them to your girlfriends! Praise them for what they do right! Earnestly thank them for the awesome things they do! They will do even more! Your words can build them up or tear them down! So if your boyfriend or husband is not acting like you want or like he cares, step back. Start listening to how you speak to him. Watch his facial expressions! If you are tearing him down, apologize. Remember the man you first met and start building him back up! Be his biggest fan and best friend! Remember, your words MATTER!

September Word of the Month: FREE/FREEDOM

          The word FREE has many definitions. Some are based off a positive thought process and others off a negative one. FREE is often thought of and defined as, "Costing nothing. Not occupied or used. To disengage." There really is not such a thing as something for nothing! The truth is even gifts cost the giver something. When most people say something is FREE, they mean it didn't cost them anything! This is a selfish and ungrateful way to look at the world! It can be a dangerous way as well. It can lead to an entitlement attitude. ( http://www.speakittolife.blogspot.com/2011/05/entitlement-attitude.html  ) People also often think of the word FREE in a patriotic sense. It means we have rights and live in a democracy. But the word FREE should hold a much greater significance. The word FREE is also defined as, "Not bound or constrained. Not under obligation or necessity. Not affected by a given condition or circumstance. To rid of or release." If you have financial FREEDOM and believe in God you will have this type of FREEDOM. When you have enough money to be financially FREE you don't have a job. FREEDOM from a job means you are not under obligation to do what a boss says to do. You don't have a necessity to go to work to earn a living. Financial FREEDOM and faith in God give you the confidence to overcome circumstances! These two FREEDOMS release most of our daily stress and leave us FREE to pursue our dreams!

August Word of the Month: DAILY

DAILY means happening or done every day. Things done every day are called habits. Habits can be bad things like overeating and smoking. They can also be good things like exercising or watching/reading positive things. It takes 28 days or a month of doing something new for it to become a habit. So if you just started smoking, the easiest time to quit is in the first month. Unfortunately, if you just started doing regular exercise, you have month before you will stop getting that feeling of dread before a workout. Also, if you skip a workout you start the month all over. You have to be consistent. I f you have, "just one more" cigarette, you have to quit all over again. You are either walking uphill or sledding down it in the snow. You may have exercised for two weeks but when you miss one session it is easy in your head to justify missing the next one. You have to adopt a, "NO EXCUSES." mentality. Here are some of the worst habits people can develop or decisions not to develop habits that I think are bad: 1. Saying, "I can't." When what they mean is, "I won't." or "I'm too afraid." or "I don't know how to..." 2. Overeating 3. Not exercising at all 4. Drinking sugar filled soda all day 5. Deciding never to read a book again after school 6. Watch TV from the time they get home till bed 7. Always trying to be comfortable Here are some habits and decisions I would suggest people develop/make: 1. Trying something new every time their is an opportunity 2. Keeping their word. Part of this is learning to schedule commitments as soon as you agree to do something. If you say you will have to get together with a friend you have not seen in forever, whip out your calendar and schedule a time to get together. Show that you mean what you say and you are not just blowing them off! 3. Think about the week before it starts and plan meals or when to eat out. Have some go to recipes that are healthy and buy groceries to make those meals. Otherwise you will fix whatever unhealthy thing sounds good at that time. PACK YOUR LUNCH! Don't go out to eat with girl friends or with the guys! Eating out all the time will add weight to you. Of course to do this you need to come up with a food budget and stick to it! 4. Come up with a budget. Don't just buy things on the fly! Your money will disappear and you will wonder where it went so fast. Put $1000 in a savings for an emergency. Believe me, it is life and stuff happens! Pay down any debts you have and watch your stress melt away. People are always so happy that they can get credit. "I got a loan for a house with payment of $700 a month. Many people pay that in rent for apartments. This is so cool." In this economy can you afford to risk losing your job and the house being foreclosed? Oh and guess what?! You had to declare bankruptcy..Now you have NO credit. Besides, when I was growing up, I was taught that it wasn't worth having if you didn't earn it yourself! 5. Exercise consistently. You can decide if it is DAILY or a couple times a week. Just do it consistently! 6. Drink water. Drink unsweet or drastically less sweet tea. Stop drinking all the soda and energy drinks that are loaded with sugar. I personally sell and use XS energy drinks. They have a ton of B-12 and no sugar. They taste awesome! They are like 15 flavors! I am not trying to sell them right now I am just trying to remove your excuses and tell you that you can make a choice to be healthy and still enjoy your drinks. However, if you are interested in them check them out at www.amway.com/vsm . 7. Read self help/leadership/people skill/personality growth type books all the time. They will help your friendships and your marriages. They will improve your relationships with co-workers. 8. If all you ever do is work and watch TV then your life will have no meaning. You will start escaping into the TV shows and characters and living through them. You deserve more of a life than pretending to be someone else! 9. Get out of your comfort zone often. That is the only way to grow and change. It is how you find out who you really are on the inside... So remember it is not just about what you do DAILY but about what you chose NOT to do DAILY! Habits define you. They define your character! So I leave you with one last habit I think you should develop..MAKE LIFE FUN DAILY!

July Word of the Month: CURIOUS

CURIOUS means eager to learn. It also means extraordinary or unusual. Being eager to learn is a good thing. If you are not learning you are not growing. You should always be growing and changing. Why does everyone try so hard to be normal? What are we afraid of that we feel we have to be like everyone else? It is good not to be normal. What does normal even mean? Normal people are average. Average people are not growing. My awesome pastor, PK Bowman of The Rock of Asheville, says, "God made you because he wanted a you." According to the bible I was designed for a unique purpose that only I can fulfill. Clearly, I was not meant to be normal. I was not meant to be like everyone else. I cannot fulfill my purpose if I do not continue to grow into the person He created me to be. Besides consider where would the world be if everyone tried to be normal. What would have been invented? Would we have gone to the moon? Also, think about the things in this world that we consider to have value. It is the rare and limited quantity things that we consider most precious. Diamonds are a good example. It is because the are scarce, hard to create, and a limited quantity that they are so valuable. If you are different and you get laughed at by others, brush it off. They are only tying to make themselves feel better about letting go of their dreams! You are removing their excuses and they don't like that! So don't pay anyone attention. Go out there and be weird! Be CURIOUS! Study math and science! Pursue whatever you are good at doing! Build to your strengths! Go after things with passion! Be courageous enough to explore all things in life! CURIOSITY and learning will keep you mind and your heart young!

June Word of the Month: COURAGE

COURAGE is the quality of mind that enables one to face danger with self-possession, confidence, and resolution. This definition tells us four things. 1. First, courage is not a trait born to us. It is something that we acquire. 2. Courage is not something we have to go through physical struggle to obtain. It is acquired simply by making a decision in your mind. 3. Courage is not a one time event. It requires that you be resolved. Or in other words that you stand firm on that decision on a daily basis. 4. Having the confidence to make and stand by a decision on a daily basis comes from having a certain quality of mind. Quality means an essential, excellent character. Having character means you have a moral and ethical strength. So it would be essential for a quality mind to have an excellent or strong moral and ethical code that it used to make decisions. That code is what gives you the confidence to make a decision and stand by it, even in the face of danger! So let me ask you..Do you have the COURAGE to pursue your dreams? Do you have the character to make the hard decisions when that candy bar says. "Come on you have been good all day. One bite won't hurt." Have you got the confidence to stand by a decision day after day when that alarm goes off at 5 a.m.? Or will you hit the snooze button? Will you shrug off the comments like, "It may be a good business plan but it won't work for you."? Or is your resolve as stiff as tissue paper? COURAGE is knowing that you have already won! COURAGE charges into the lion's den on faith!